The humble will see their God at work and be glad. Let all who seek God's help be encouraged.
~ Psalm 69:32, NLT
There are moments in your life where you forget that God is at work in all that you do. Usually those are your moments of dispare and heartache. We often wonder if there was a God why would we have to endure all this pain and suffering. I too feel this way to often but know I have no other option but to keep pushing through and moving forward. My faith doesn't waiver I still have that but it doesn't go to say that I don't have moments where I yell and ask God what in the world he is thinking and how in the world am I expected to handle any more. Often times I will tell him to go find someone else to pick on because yes it does seem like he keeps choosing me to test and I just don't get it and want a break.
I learned a long time ago that fairytale are actually life...we all forget that every single fairytale comes with many obstacles and trials only to have a final triumph only at the very end and after all the suffering the person endures. Our prince however is Jesus and God is our happily ever after! There are many new people and old people that help the man characters to get to the end and have support but at no point is the person ever spared the pain and trials and it really wouldn't make a good story, would it? This too happens in our lives all the time. We don't find elation in the millionaire winning the lottery but rather the man who came from nothing at all. Actually you find yourself wishing the millionaire wouldn't have won and how he really doesn't deserve anymore than he already has.
My life is no different. It went from being an obese child/teenager, to a young woman seeking love in all the wrong places, getting pregnant unexpectedly, thinking I was in the right relationship, the FBI storming my house, being left alone with a baby, visiting in a prison, realizing that this is not where I was suppose to be only after finding God in my life, doing something for myself, meeting the love of my life, buying a home together, having to gut it due to termite damage that was undisclosed, being laid off, getting married again with many family members thinking it was too soon and I was making another bad decision, getting pregnant with Joshua, his first seizure that changed our lives forever, traveling all over the country for answers, having to take public assistance because I could not keep a job due to all the kids issues, realizing that the govnt doesn't really help those in need, being blessed with Michael, missing his birth, knowing from the day he was born that he too had Mito, many other daily obstacles still in there, My grandparents dying, Hugh being laid off for over two years, George blessing our family, Hugh's father dying, George dying, Gabrielle blessing our family, and now facing loosing our home. My life has been no picnic but in there are all mixed blessings and trials and even some blessings come with their own set of trials, and some tragedy comes with blessings mixed in. For without something bad happening there would not be something good. I know I am not alone in all these trials, so many others face their own set and often times worse ones. This is why I have always taught the kids that we all have the ability to make a difference in this world no matter our life status. No matter how good or bad the situation though, I could always feel God's presence in my life and know that he is always at work even when I did not have faith.
This weekend Hugh and I went to the vowel renewal for friends of ours who have been married 20 years. At the dinner following I sat next to the minister who officiated the ceremony. We got talking and I was talking to him about the kids and our obstacles and he just looked at me astonished with all we have been through. I told him that Hugh and I should statistically be divorced about a million times by now. He looked at me and said that I was quite right but how he could feel God's presence in me even before knowing any of our story. We talked about things as if he was an old friend and he told me that God is working in our lives and even when it is hard to keep the faith and know that he is leading us where he wants us and he could tell that from the moment he met me. He asked me if I would be willing to talk to others and share our story and our personal faith and I told him absolutely. With that he told me he would pray for us and I thanked him, telling him that it truly meant the world to me.
I have realized that by sharing my story with others and the fact that they see I still have faith, has changed many people's lives. It was this weekend that it was also God at work through me. So many people would be ashamed to have been through all I have or feel some need to explain to others and justify the bad stuff as if we did something to deserve this all. In fact bad stuff just happens to good people and no one did anything to warrant pain and suffering, even the person who murdered someone. It is God's place not mine to judge, I don't know how God is working in their lives because I know for a fact out of bad there is good as long as you choose to see it. By telling my story I know that I am impacting others lives even when I don't know it because this is what God wants me to do.
Many people ask how in the world I have the faith that I do. All I can say is how can you not? I know that I am not strong enough on my own to get through all of these things and come out sane in the end. Before George died, I would have told you I would have crawled in a hole and died with him but now in fact I have not done that but rather found strength in it I never could imagine. It doesn't come from anything human because we are flawed and buckle under many life stressors and obstacles. God is in the tragedy and triumphs that come from those tragedies. God is there carrying us and rooting us on as we try to make sense of all that is around us just as a parent is for their child. I know often times my parents have not understood or agreed with my choices in life but they have been here no matter what. That is where God is, he is our father and wants the best for us but cannot save us from life and is struggles but he can root us on and be there when we fall to catch us as long as we allow him to be.
Right now we face loosing our house and having to move in with my parents. I can feel God at work in this and I have a feeling we are meant to move in with my parents although I cannot tell you why. We cannot see the future so this is when we rely on faith. Sometimes it is hard to know if you really are doing the right things and that is when we all second guess ourselves. Many people would feel that loosing your house and having to move back in with your parents would be a horrible thing and that it is a step back in life. I cannot see it that way. My mother is my best friend even during the times we butt heads and fight. Not everyone gets that sort of thing since my relationship with her is very unique. However, I see the joy and happiness that my kids bring to both of my parents and how much they bring to my children's lives. They were not always happy when I was pregnant and yet each child has added something to their lives and I am sure they look back knowing that I was just following God's plan for my life.
I've already started working on their house getting ready for us to move in. The boys are actually excited and can't wait to set their rooms up. We are trying to make this as much of a positive situation as possible. It is hard and it breaks our hearts in one way but also brings something good to it also. My father is retiring in another year and unfortunately does not have much in terms of retirement because of the military changing their retirement pensions into 401K and he missed the cut off by a year. Unfortunately, this put him in a bad spot because he did not have a whole lot of time to now save for retirement. With us moving in and helping with the household expenses, I know for sure that it will alleviate some of the stress especially since my mom was laid off about a year or so ago. It is also is going to be nice for them to be able to be grandparents in such a capacity since while I was growing up their lives were also full of struggles and now they get to just enjoy the kids in a different manner.
As hard as it is to move forward with change, since we don't know the outcome, it can bring better things rather than worse. It is going to take a lot of work on my part as I have to clean and set up not only my house but also my parents but I know I can do it. Hugh and I have really tried everything we can to save the house but it just isn't working. My plea to others has not yealded anything thus far so it has made me realize that I am meant to listen the the voice in my head saying it is time to move forward. Maybe this is all just God at work in our lives telling us that it is his will we move on from something so dear to our hearts. He gave up his son even when he didn't want to so a house is not even comparable. I know that as long as we are all together, that is all that matters, God will work the reset of it out in his time and not mine (although I really HATE that!) We are still going to need help with moving and the cost of the adaptations to my parents house but as always, I know that God provides and he will make it happen if it is meant to be.
Please know that God is at work in your lives even if you are struggling right now to just make it through each second of your day. It is ok to hate the bad stuff but don't forget to look for the good. Having a positive outlook on things is not easy and you don't always have to have it but do not wallow in the sorrow and pain or it will take over and you will become someone you are not proud of or happy with. When it is too much to carry, turn it over to God and let him carry the burden. Yet again, not something easy to do since we are all independent and our society calls for the very opposite of us. You are not a failure since there is no such thing, it is just something that didn't work out and that is ok. Find forgiveness of yourself because you are your own worst judge and God sees you completely different(try and remember how you would feel if it was your child in your shoes, and how you would still love them no matter what and not want them to think badly of themselves) Know in your heart, above all, that in everything, God is at work!
George's Guardian's of Grace Projects
Stocking project is now in full force collecting donations. We have a list of the items we can use. You can also choose to sponsor a stocking in memory or honor of someone else. We will include a paragraph or two in the cards we place in the stockings to let the recipient know about the person that means so much to you. Our paypal account is posted on this page and ready to take donations. Email us for a list of items needed or with any questions or information you would like included on a sponsored stocking/donation.
Video Tributes/Celebration of Life Footage
Here is a link to a video tribute that was made by Richard's dad in memory of George. Get out your tissues!
We Finally have footage from the service up and running:
It is in 4 sections running about 17 mins each. If you were unable to attend, you can now see what you missed. We were so blessed to have everyone there with us in person and in spirit!